Perfect As You Are

Recently I was asked by Racel to be Nikki's godmother. Racel brought up the topic before our breakfast trip to the cafeteria in my cube. If you can see our office, this place does not have the ambiance for these kind of occasions. However, I was delighted and honored to be asked and I answered, "Yes, of course!" The first thing that went through my mind was, "me? Godmother? Am I qualified?". Racel went on to say that there are more than one godmothers and Ira will be the main godmother so I don't have to worry about the responsibilities too much. To tell the truth, as soon as Racel posed the first question, I was in my head having a conversation with myself the whole time. "What good qualities do I have to teach this baby?", "Am I really qualified for this?" and "What are the responsibilities of being a good godmother? Maybe I am not fit to be one?"

After a few days and some serious thinking, I realized that there is really nothing that I can teach Nikki but maybe I can be there for her and to take some things away...

Nikki was born perfect and complete and I was a witness of that! The first several years of her life will be worry and anxiety-free and she will live the fullest life and enjoy everyone around her without reservations. The first several years will be adventurous for Nikki and she will experience everything with one hundred percent curiosity and she will be fully present with no concerns of the past or the future! The first several years of Nikki's life, Nikki will be my teacher and I will be there to learn!

Once Nikki gets a little older, she will start to learn the boundaries of this world. She will learn what are good and what are bad behaviors and who is angry, sad, or happy. Nikki will learn the emotions and define the meanings of these feelings for herself. I want to be there to let her know that it is ok to have the emotions and feelings but just don't take them too seriously.

When Nikki becomes an adult, she will have experienced many things on her own. When she has doubts about herself, I will ask her to give them up. When she has doubts about others, I will tell her to listen to her instinct and trust herself. When Nikki gets her heart broken, I will tell her that she will get to love more than once and when she becomes cynical and resigned, I will encourage her to love courageously and not hold back!

I have a lot more learning to do before Nikki becomes a big girl but with her help in the next several years, I will be able to pass on the wisdom back to her! I am delighted to have the opportunity to be part of Nikki's life and I am excited to get to look her in the eyes and say to her "you are perfect as you are".