One plus one equals two, right? 50% plus 50% equals 100%, correct? I just realized that being good at math and logical sometimes might not be such a good thing... In life, especially in relationships, the math just doesn't add up...
Why is it that relationships work in the beginning? You know, the passion, the longing, the curiosity, the endless conversations, the interest, the sweet and sour tastes of it all. Everything about it just seem so perfect and complete... It seems to me that in the beginning of a relationship, both of you are more than willing to put in 100% to have a 100% relationship. If my math is right, the equation for a lasting relationship should equal to100% from you, plus 100% from your partner, correct?
Once a long term relationship gets established, people forget what the equation should be and adapt to the mathematical and logical solutions. We often assume that putting in more than the other person translates into our "right" to demand from the other person and forget that our responsibility to the relationship is 100%. This is as if you put in 60% and the other person put in 40%, that will get you to where you want to be. It's not the sum of the two of you, but 100% from each person to make a lasting relationship. This means your 100% is YOUR responsibility.
Wherever there are complaints about relationships, work, or family, maybe we should start asking ourselves if we have given our 100% to that area of our lives? Are we being authentic in facing our responsibilities in these areas?
2 comments:
if we can only be that rational, sensible, authentic and responsible at every single step in life :).
Enjoyed the post! Well expressed :D
thank you~ it's tough but I'll keep trying~
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